Holding resentment, acting out of spite, demonstrating passive aggressive behavior, cutting people out ...these are just a few of our human behaviors that are bred out of lacking forgiveness in our lives. When we encounter various experiences we realize there are moments and people that will hurt us and we will do the same to others. How we move forward from those times is a critical step for how you are choosing to live your life and embrace what possibility could come to you.
No matter how hard you try, pain, sorrow and hurt will eventually come around. The toxicity of holding onto the pain that is caused by living life will only create more of just that; pain. More pain, more hurt, more animosity, more anger, more of all of that. Those feelings all come from the onset of emotional pain. They are “Mama Pain’s” babies and they grow and get bigger and can eventually take over your everyday thoughts and actions.
We often forget that forgiveness is not always to satisfy the person we are forgiving, but more often is to clear our own negative connections to a moment or person. Striving to keep this perspective when faced with needing to dish out forgiveness is freeing. Release yourself from the pain, forgive the person or experience, and move past the moment. This isn’t for them, it is for you. If the other party gets something out of your forgiveness then that is a fantastic bonus. You should never expect something from the person you are forgiving, you might set yourself up for failure if the other party does not want to or is not ready to welcome your forgiveness.
We need to become more conscious of how we acknowledge pain, accept its presence, and then move forward one step at a time to become better. Negativity will multiply upon itself. Positivity will do the same. So what path do you choose? Letting go of the bad and holding on to the lesson? Holding onto the anger, pain, resentment and living life on the edge of emotional turmoil?
So what is it? Are you going to live by the painful moments and keep forgiveness to yourself to grow negative relationships? OR are you going to free yourself and possibly those around you by moving beyond the superficial reasons why you are hurt, release yourself from the shackles of the negative pain you are experiencing and take a meaningful lesson from that moment?
It is always up to you to fight for yourself and your emotional health. It is a fight worth every second. Believe in the value of every day you have to be able to gift yourself with happiness and positivity. Pain is a great reminder of what good we have in our life, to keep our perspective in check and to acknowledge our vast emotional range and how to stay in a healthy mindset when life doesn't always go our way.
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